DEC 2019 An Embodied Breath + Heartfelt Hug= Recipe for Love and Wholeness

DEC 2019 An Embodied Breath + Heartfelt Hug= Recipe for Love and Wholeness



Below are my findings over the last month when combining a Deep Belly Breath with a Heartfelt Hug for 20 seconds:


So, during this holiday season you might find yourself in all kinds of situations with all kinds of people. The people might be ones that are outside of your normal frequency and there is no better time than to shift the energy offer some comic relief and circulate a wave of goodness wherever you travel.  You will learn a lot about your own body language.


  1. The KissyFace Huggy Body people: My touchy feelie husband and friends melted right into it and simply exclaimed “More please, I want some more!” 20 seconds was a no brainer!


  1. Tushy Hug Some people gave me the infamous Tushy Hug where they stook their backside out as not too get too close. So I simply said, “What’s with
    the tushy?” They relaxed, let out a deep sigh and drew themselves in closer to me. AHHH heart release! Open Breath! Sometimes we just need permission.










  1. Warning Older folks: If you have just consumed large amount of alcohol, coffee, tea or any other beverage, there can be some urinary seepage if there is too much of a pelvis thrust i.e. too much pressure in the embrace.


  1. Social Cues: If I felt a bit of tentativeness by the other person, I asked permission to hold it for 20 seconds. That created a bit of normalcy like I wasn’t just missing something in MY social cues.

  1. Hug a Stranger: 20 seconds not enough? Looking for longer hunkier hugs? Go to Krishna Das Kirtan and “Hug a Stranger.” I did ( in NYC no less) and it lasted 120 second! Ulrika! Yalza! Open hearts galore! We even breathed in unison! Moral of the story: Create your own Chant! Circle back to it daily. Watch yourself magnetize in “Hugs for a Stranger Campaign!”






  1. Enthusiasts: By far, the youth were the most expressive and the most enthusiastic. They had a running sprint into the hug and and had no time limit. The younger the child, the longer they hugged. Such deliciousness! Their idea of breathing, however, was like a dog or cat panting.


7. The Deep Breathers:I ran into a woman at a yoga studio who had attended one of our Introductory Breath workshops and experienced a huge catharsis and shift in perspective. She stepped right into the hug and was DeLiberately DeSigning her own DeLight ( aka Liberating Signs of Light). Her embrace brought tears to my eyes. There was a fully felt perception of conscious unity. A beautiful gift to and from our spirits!


8. The Loungers: Animals especially dogs and cats would lounge in my arms, a modified version of a hug but no less potent, keep the rhythmic beat of the breath and commit for hours. By far the winners in terms of length of affection! They are open to any and all kinds of affection. LOL!











10. Even as I binge watched Grey’s Anatomy Season 5 Epidsode 14  entitled Beat Your Heart Out at about 26 minutes in there was a scene where Dr. Dixon became ungrounded. She framed her needs as follows, ” I need pressure. I need constant, deep, tight pressure across large areas of my body. I need to be held tightly” I would say that is a hug and it lasted for more than 20 seconds.








Everyone can benefit from deep belly breathing and lots of hugs! They both stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system which offers a rest, renew and relax response.  The breath infuses more life force, chi, prana into your personal sphere.   What is even more magnanimous is if you couple your belly breath with a big heartfelt hug.


It can be simply with yourself by placing your arms around yourself while gazing at your eyes in the mirror or with another person.


The following information is from Sacred Dreams April 14 2018 on Facebook about HUGS


The average length of a hug between two people is 3 seconds. But the researchers have discovered something fantastic. When a hug lasts 20 seconds, there is a therapeutic effect on the body and mind. The reason is that a sincere embrace produces a hormone called “oxytocin”, also known as the love hormone. This substance has many benefits in our physical and mental health, helps us, among other things, to relax, to feel safe and calm our fears and anxiety. This wonderful tranquilizer is offered free of charge every time we have a person in our arms, who cradled a child, who cherish a dog or a cat, that we are dancing with our partner, the closer we get to someone or simply hold the Shoulders of a friend.



A famous quote by psychotherapist Virginia Satir goes, “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” Whether those exact numbers have been scientifically proven remains to be seen, but there is a great deal of scientific evidence related to the importance of hugs and physical contact. Here are some reasons why we should hug::




Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter that acts on the limbic system, the brain’s emotional centre, promoting feelings of contentment, reducing anxiety and stress, and even making mammals monogamous. It is the hormone responsible for us all being here today. You see this little gem is released during childbirth, making our mothers forget about all of the excruciating pain they endured expelling us from their bodies and making them want to still love and spend time with us. New research from the University of California suggests that it has a similarly civilising effect on human males, making them more affectionate and better at forming relationships and social bonding. And it dramatically increased the libido and sexual performance of test subjects. When we hug someone, Oxycontin is released into our bodies by our pituitary gland, lowering both our heart rates and our cortisol levels. Cortisol is the hormone responsible for stress, high blood pressure, and heart disease.




Connections are fostered when people take the time to appreciate and acknowledge one another. A hug is one of the easiest ways to show appreciation and acknowledgement of another person. The world is a busy, hustle-bustle place and we’re constantly rushing to the next task. By slowing down and taking a moment to offer sincere hugs throughout the day, we’re benefiting ourselves, others, and cultivating better patience within ourselves.




Affection also has a direct response on the reduction of stress which prevents many diseases. The Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine says it has carried out more than 100 studies into touch and found evidence of significant effects, including faster growth in premature babies, reduced pain, decreased autoimmune disease symptoms, lowered glucose levels in children with diabetes, and improved immune systems in people with cancer.




Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body’s production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free.




Almost 70 percent of communication is nonverbal. The interpretation of body language can be based on a single gesture and hugging is an excellent method of expressing yourself nonverbally to another human being or animal. Not only can they feel the love and care in your embrace, but they can actually be receptive enough to pay it forward to others based on your initiative alone.




Hugging boosts self-esteem, especially in children. The tactile sense is all-important in infants. A baby recognizes its parents initially by touch. From the time we’re born our family’s touch shows us that we’re loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love.




Everything everyone does involves protecting and triggering dopamine flow. Low dopamine levels play a role in the neuro-degenerative disease Parkinson’s as well as mood disorders such as depression. Dopamine is responsible for giving us that feel-good feeling, and it’s also responsible for motivation! Hugs stimulate brains to release dopamine, the pleasure hormone. Dopamine sensors are the areas that many stimulating drugs such as cocaine and methamphetamine target. The presence of a certain kinds of dopamine receptors are also associated with sensation-seeking.




Reaching out and hugging releases endorphins and serotonin into the blood vessels and the released endorphins and serotonin cause pleasure and negate pain and sadness and decrease the chances of getting heart problems, helps fight excess weight and prolongs life. Even the cuddling of pets has a soothing effect that reduces the stress levels. Hugging for an extended time lifts one’s serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating happiness.




Hugs balance out the nervous system. The skin contains a network of tiny, egg-shaped pressure centres called Pacinian corpuscles that can sense touch and which are in contact with the brain through the vagus nerve. The galvanic skin response of someone receiving and giving a hug shows a change in skin conductance. The effect in moisture and electricity in the skin suggests a more balanced state in the nervous system – parasympathetic.



Experiment over the next month and see how you feel and the levels you move through as the length of your hug expands.

Be a daredevil, hold the hug for 20 seconds.

If that is just too much than see what it is like for you to hold the hug a few seconds longer than you are accustomed?

Couple it with deep conscious belly breath. Make it an adventure!



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