Jan 2020 Clear Vision: What 2020 means to me!





This is the decade signifies where CLEAR VISION carves pathways for more profound insight into what we are creating both personally and collectively. We get to see the possibilities before us and actively choose. This happens on a personal basis first. Our continuous birthing and expansion of this stellar sight may come in the most innocuous of ways, if we so choose, or not so placid. It’s each of our choice to design how it unfolds.


This is the T.I.M.E. whereby we “own” our role as fully responsible beings!!!





What do we want to create for ourselves and humanity?






2020 symbolizes a “what is”  moment in time and space and out of time and space for each of us personally.  We can see our collective creation more distinctly and shape our future NOWs.






The contrast between darkening corruption, abusive power and controlling mechanisms will be illuminated in such a profound manner that it will become almost impossible for the rationalizing mind to make excuses anymore.


This will be both on a personal level within each individual’s awakening awareness of their choices as well as a global level. No more taking a pill to make it go away! The knock on the door will get louder and louder until we listen!!!


2020 aka CLEAR VISION reminds us of the truth of ourselves and to “Look to the sun and find the goodness that exists within each and every one of us ( especially ourselves) so that we might project that out into the world and see our essence reflect back that much more beautifully.”

Think of it as the sun (light and goodness) permanently shining above the horizon. The composite energies of light and goodness are finally holding consistently steady over the line of shadow. This is evolutionary because we are expanding our capacity to hold the light within our own body temples.

2020 invites us into an even more holistic mindset of being inclusive. Previous acts and attitudes of “exclusivity” will illuminate just how empowered we can be when embracing inclusivity because we will FEEL the difference


Awareness of a “WE DO IT TOGETHER” grows paramount on the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual levels which will include financial, economic, political, environmental, social, educational, and religious aspects of ourselves.


2020 will offer opportunities for personal transparency as to what we are creating and what we desire to create going forward for ourselves as individuals, family, friends, clients and the world.


2020 will unfold a kind of unity. Together we create the intention to serve the highest good which includes each one of us as an asset. 




“It” is within US!


HOW we “ARE” when we do the things we do will create huge potentials and opportunities for abundance, peace, LOVE and well-being out into the waters of humanity.


2020 allows the perception of money to be authentically acknowledged. It is simply a tool whereby we have collectively agreed to exchange energy. The quality of our energy is influenced by our perceptions. What quality of energy do we prefer to exchange? Recognizing that our service not only includes the perceptions of our family, friends, and client’s well-being but ourselves.


2020 is a time of empowered service by supporting a shift in perspective.

The SHIP has sailed which Signifies Hope In Progress




-Imagine you are some type of vessel floating on some body of water.

-Play the music of water sounds.

You choose on you tube and here are a few suggestions.





Waterfall: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02NQkhbjALg

River: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6uhRxK_EOm4

Ocean: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f77SKdyn-1Y

Storm: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gVKEM4K8J8A

Lake: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4NG30BMPqn8


Inhale and exhale deeply for 20 minutes.

At the end, describe in your journal what you saw, felt, heard, noticed and experienced. All these details will reflect back to you the direction you are envisioning.

It is all metaphoric of your physical creation.


For a more profound experience employ the support of Himalayan Salt:

Consider going to a Himalayan Salt Cave such as The Breathing Rooms in Shrewsbury, NJ.

The salt will activate your parasympathetic system and it will take you on a beautiful voyage.

We do hold Transformational Breath workshops there also.


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DEC 2019 An Embodied Breath + Heartfelt Hug= Recipe for Love and Wholeness

DEC 2019 An Embodied Breath + Heartfelt Hug= Recipe for Love and Wholeness



Below are my findings over the last month when combining a Deep Belly Breath with a Heartfelt Hug for 20 seconds:


So, during this holiday season you might find yourself in all kinds of situations with all kinds of people. The people might be ones that are outside of your normal frequency and there is no better time than to shift the energy offer some comic relief and circulate a wave of goodness wherever you travel.  You will learn a lot about your own body language.


  1. The KissyFace Huggy Body people: My touchy feelie husband and friends melted right into it and simply exclaimed “More please, I want some more!” 20 seconds was a no brainer!


  1. Tushy Hug Some people gave me the infamous Tushy Hug where they stook their backside out as not too get too close. So I simply said, “What’s with
    the tushy?” They relaxed, let out a deep sigh and drew themselves in closer to me. AHHH heart release! Open Breath! Sometimes we just need permission.










  1. Warning Older folks: If you have just consumed large amount of alcohol, coffee, tea or any other beverage, there can be some urinary seepage if there is too much of a pelvis thrust i.e. too much pressure in the embrace.


  1. Social Cues: If I felt a bit of tentativeness by the other person, I asked permission to hold it for 20 seconds. That created a bit of normalcy like I wasn’t just missing something in MY social cues.

  1. Hug a Stranger: 20 seconds not enough? Looking for longer hunkier hugs? Go to Krishna Das Kirtan and “Hug a Stranger.” I did ( in NYC no less) and it lasted 120 second! Ulrika! Yalza! Open hearts galore! We even breathed in unison! Moral of the story: Create your own Chant! Circle back to it daily. Watch yourself magnetize in “Hugs for a Stranger Campaign!”






  1. Enthusiasts: By far, the youth were the most expressive and the most enthusiastic. They had a running sprint into the hug and and had no time limit. The younger the child, the longer they hugged. Such deliciousness! Their idea of breathing, however, was like a dog or cat panting.


7. The Deep Breathers:I ran into a woman at a yoga studio who had attended one of our Introductory Breath workshops and experienced a huge catharsis and shift in perspective. She stepped right into the hug and was DeLiberately DeSigning her own DeLight ( aka Liberating Signs of Light). Her embrace brought tears to my eyes. There was a fully felt perception of conscious unity. A beautiful gift to and from our spirits!


8. The Loungers: Animals especially dogs and cats would lounge in my arms, a modified version of a hug but no less potent, keep the rhythmic beat of the breath and commit for hours. By far the winners in terms of length of affection! They are open to any and all kinds of affection. LOL!











10. Even as I binge watched Grey’s Anatomy Season 5 Epidsode 14  entitled Beat Your Heart Out at about 26 minutes in there was a scene where Dr. Dixon became ungrounded. She framed her needs as follows, ” I need pressure. I need constant, deep, tight pressure across large areas of my body. I need to be held tightly” I would say that is a hug and it lasted for more than 20 seconds.








Everyone can benefit from deep belly breathing and lots of hugs! They both stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system which offers a rest, renew and relax response.  The breath infuses more life force, chi, prana into your personal sphere.   What is even more magnanimous is if you couple your belly breath with a big heartfelt hug.


It can be simply with yourself by placing your arms around yourself while gazing at your eyes in the mirror or with another person.


The following information is from Sacred Dreams April 14 2018 on Facebook about HUGS


The average length of a hug between two people is 3 seconds. But the researchers have discovered something fantastic. When a hug lasts 20 seconds, there is a therapeutic effect on the body and mind. The reason is that a sincere embrace produces a hormone called “oxytocin”, also known as the love hormone. This substance has many benefits in our physical and mental health, helps us, among other things, to relax, to feel safe and calm our fears and anxiety. This wonderful tranquilizer is offered free of charge every time we have a person in our arms, who cradled a child, who cherish a dog or a cat, that we are dancing with our partner, the closer we get to someone or simply hold the Shoulders of a friend.



A famous quote by psychotherapist Virginia Satir goes, “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” Whether those exact numbers have been scientifically proven remains to be seen, but there is a great deal of scientific evidence related to the importance of hugs and physical contact. Here are some reasons why we should hug::




Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter that acts on the limbic system, the brain’s emotional centre, promoting feelings of contentment, reducing anxiety and stress, and even making mammals monogamous. It is the hormone responsible for us all being here today. You see this little gem is released during childbirth, making our mothers forget about all of the excruciating pain they endured expelling us from their bodies and making them want to still love and spend time with us. New research from the University of California suggests that it has a similarly civilising effect on human males, making them more affectionate and better at forming relationships and social bonding. And it dramatically increased the libido and sexual performance of test subjects. When we hug someone, Oxycontin is released into our bodies by our pituitary gland, lowering both our heart rates and our cortisol levels. Cortisol is the hormone responsible for stress, high blood pressure, and heart disease.




Connections are fostered when people take the time to appreciate and acknowledge one another. A hug is one of the easiest ways to show appreciation and acknowledgement of another person. The world is a busy, hustle-bustle place and we’re constantly rushing to the next task. By slowing down and taking a moment to offer sincere hugs throughout the day, we’re benefiting ourselves, others, and cultivating better patience within ourselves.




Affection also has a direct response on the reduction of stress which prevents many diseases. The Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine says it has carried out more than 100 studies into touch and found evidence of significant effects, including faster growth in premature babies, reduced pain, decreased autoimmune disease symptoms, lowered glucose levels in children with diabetes, and improved immune systems in people with cancer.




Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body’s production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free.




Almost 70 percent of communication is nonverbal. The interpretation of body language can be based on a single gesture and hugging is an excellent method of expressing yourself nonverbally to another human being or animal. Not only can they feel the love and care in your embrace, but they can actually be receptive enough to pay it forward to others based on your initiative alone.




Hugging boosts self-esteem, especially in children. The tactile sense is all-important in infants. A baby recognizes its parents initially by touch. From the time we’re born our family’s touch shows us that we’re loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love.




Everything everyone does involves protecting and triggering dopamine flow. Low dopamine levels play a role in the neuro-degenerative disease Parkinson’s as well as mood disorders such as depression. Dopamine is responsible for giving us that feel-good feeling, and it’s also responsible for motivation! Hugs stimulate brains to release dopamine, the pleasure hormone. Dopamine sensors are the areas that many stimulating drugs such as cocaine and methamphetamine target. The presence of a certain kinds of dopamine receptors are also associated with sensation-seeking.




Reaching out and hugging releases endorphins and serotonin into the blood vessels and the released endorphins and serotonin cause pleasure and negate pain and sadness and decrease the chances of getting heart problems, helps fight excess weight and prolongs life. Even the cuddling of pets has a soothing effect that reduces the stress levels. Hugging for an extended time lifts one’s serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating happiness.




Hugs balance out the nervous system. The skin contains a network of tiny, egg-shaped pressure centres called Pacinian corpuscles that can sense touch and which are in contact with the brain through the vagus nerve. The galvanic skin response of someone receiving and giving a hug shows a change in skin conductance. The effect in moisture and electricity in the skin suggests a more balanced state in the nervous system – parasympathetic.



Experiment over the next month and see how you feel and the levels you move through as the length of your hug expands.

Be a daredevil, hold the hug for 20 seconds.

If that is just too much than see what it is like for you to hold the hug a few seconds longer than you are accustomed?

Couple it with deep conscious belly breath. Make it an adventure!



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Nov 2019 SHHHH Listen Closely! Your body is whispering to you!

 SHHHH Listen Closely! Your body is whispering to you!



Some weeks ago, there was a stagnant energy felt by both my beloved and I in our home. We both felt it yet there was no story accompanying it. It was strange and uncomfortable. It felt like a low level stress, tension, angst or disruption in the environment. There was an absence of the flow of ease.

 Usually, I go to sleep earlier but on this particular evening, he went up to rest first. When I came up about 30 minutes later, he was engaged in conscious connected breathing. I laid down next to him and began to join with his cadence.


My body shook momentarily.

His body shook temporarily.

I shuttered with tears.

He expressed emotions through sound.

I made my voice heard through toning.


Within 30 minutes, we had cleared ourselves, the room, the house, our home, the entire space and were feeling so lighthearted and expansive. We were giggling in amazement. We had joined hands with A Loving Presence, something greater than both of us, to move the energy.


Sure, we were active components yet it was a miracle up front and personal that we could both attest to. We were in awe and gratitude for the gift that we were fully participatory and open to receiving. It was showing us that whatever chi, life force, prana or spirit that is riding on the wave of our breath is our best friend, confidant, lover and wisdom keeper. It is our “go to” phenomenon.




Often, I ask questions to this Loving PRESENCE and sometimes I receive prolific answers.








 When I am really open to listening,   I see that  LOVE IS IN THE AIR! 


Sure, we could have attached a story to the emotions we were experiencing and solidified the disruption;however, we made a different choice.










So how well tuned are we with ourselves? It’s an ongoing process of re-framing our observations!

Our bodies are intelligent creatures. Our brain may have an insistent manner, a demanding nature or an exactness about it to protect us at times but our body is telling us the real truth AND it knows the path of least resistance.


How pronounced does the messenger have to express itself in order for us to perceive with clarity?

In this case, CLARITY is defined as perceiving through the lens of love, interpreting the message with light filled loving kindness.


Consciously Letting Authentic Reality In To You


Everything has a benefit to it. EVERYTHING! It’s up to you to turn towards the sun and embrace the shining light so you might know yourself more INTIMATELY.



The Pathway to the Physical Plain:






begets TANGIBLE MANIFESTATIONS ( situations, circumstances, relationship patterns etc)






The Pathway home to the Loving Presence within us:


EXPLORATION of the  tangible manifestations with innocent curiosity.

DISCOVERING  the thoughts and underlying belief with compassion.


BEING with the underlying core energetic.



Experiment with yourself:


-What is the energetic undertone that each of these people (below) are sharing with themselves?

-What true belief system is being beckoned for acknowledgment?

-How does your interpretation FEEL in your body when you connect with it?


-If your insight offers possibilities to FEEL more love and expansion, you know you are connecting with your heart center which is a liaison to a loving presence.


-If your interpretation FEELS otherwise, then you know you are right on track and moving through layers while on approach to a much deeper, more satisfying  insight. Consider the possibility that you are interpreting more from what you have learned from others that came before you. It’s conformity and not necessarily the truth of who you are.

There are no right nor wrong answers to these questions. They are meant for pondering and self-discovery.


  1. What prompts an athlete’s body to break record after record which opens the door for others to believe in the impossible and follow?


  1. How is it that a woman who desires to have a baby wholeheartedly but is unable to conceive?  What is prompting her body to contract in such a way, which precludes the flow of life force to enter her sacred sanctuary in a particular way? 


  1. How is it that an avid meditator can hibernate their body for months and months without eating or drinking without any adverse health repercussions?


  1. What about a person who simply desires continuous restful night’s sleep and thought/brain’s activity interrupts the ease and the grace that is possible for that luxury?


  1. How is it that a woman starts running at age 100 and continues running marathons at age 103?


  1. How about the person in chronic pain who takes medication on a regular basis to alleviate the discomfort? What message is in the pain? What is the medication saying? 


  1. What kind of “intimacy with nature” is a person fostering that lives off the land, and, with what main stream society calls, isolated?


  1. What duration of time does it take one person verses another to return to feeling wholehearted after the ending of a relationship?



Self-Reflection on the experiences that present themselves to us is  valuable & significant information to discover a softer, easier way. It is important to REFRAME the experience so we see it through the eyes of our Loving Presence. That is what will open the doorway to more light and a remembrance of our wholeness. A shift in perspective is how we change ourselves and the world.


Have questions re-framing? Ask the question and do a self breathing session or schedule a session for co-creative support.


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Oct 2019 The Art of “Trying” and the Power of “Authentic Belief”

The Art of “Trying” and the Power of “Authentic Belief”

“Trying” is a real fiasco and could be considered its own art form. After all, when

you think  about  it, “trying” is denying the full remembrance of who you

are.   When we try, we are pretending not to be something that we are ” WHOLE”.  We are acting.  We are in a state that reflects the absence of our own self’s realization. We are not

remembering who we are in our essence, in our wholeness.

Notice how many things you “try” at in a day!


 Try to sleep,

Try to be calm,

Try not to react,

Try to be gentle with yourself,

Try Not to obsess,

Try not to worry  blah blah blah


Is ” Trying” working? Of course not, that’s the essence of “trying”. We never get “there”!

“Trying” is the art of giving our power away. “Choosing” is the action of empowerment. Feel the difference at each juncture.



There is a secondary gain or a strange kind of payoff  when we remain in the state of “trying”.  We relinquish our power. Perhaps  the child within us that desperately wants to please others AND be acknowledged is simply desirous to reclaim the long forgotten attention, compassion, love and comfort.


The lost portion is saying, ” See, I tried and I couldn’t or didn’t accomplish  XYZ. That must mean ABC is true”.  Since we are unable to see the truth of who we are in that moment, we spin our wheels causing a stationary effect which protects us from the very thing we say we want but are not actually CHOOSING. It acts as a kind of self-protection from vulnerability.


Believing and the Power of “Authentic Belief” is a process of opening to our fullest,

and broad scoped  memory of ourselves. It is a brave kind of volunteered vulnerability to

be witnessed as we are, recognizing our “is” ness is profoundly magnetic.



Although,  if my inquiry comes from my head about opening to the “divine within” it might appear like this. “What if I am nothing?” the ego says. “How will I be recognized as something to

be worthy of divinity’s creation.” That very statement keeps me from “feeling” fully. A fear reaction clutching to identification ensues which keeps the loop circling and thwarting the full repertoire of emotions that are available to us for a fully enlivening life.




The divine always provides what is required for our own soul’s growth.

Recently, I had an experience whereby I felt simultaneously anxiety and peace

hand in hand. How can that be? It was an experience I have been playing with

and this was more pronounced. It was an act of simply receiving what “is” in the

moment. An interesting surrender!




I had incredible patience with myself. Something  being birthed anew and quite refreshing.

Somehow, the “trying” to hop over the moment to get to something more comforting or desirable ceased. I was not in the chase for a peace and a calm. I sat with the sensations. I have to congratulate myself because I  did honor  myself for being still with it. Now it is time to continue with this awareness as a viable consistent possibility that I can choose again and again.


A few ways we can hop over the moment:


-Distract ourselves by jumping up and completing a task

-Telling a story as to “why” I feel anxious to deflect or rationalize it by engaging the mind



-Reacting vs Responding

-Thinking about the past or the future


-Constant chatter

-Using words such as need, want & have vs. I CHOOSE




I invite you to reflect on how you hop over the present moment AND, more importantly, how you settle yourself INTO the present moment!


I am sure there are more messages that will come from this experience but for now I am

completely satisfied with the experience as it unfolded.   Sitting with all of the internal strife so the storm can subside is a precious surrender. Feeling the levels of angst, really feeling them and not deflecting them takes courage and is well worth the experience. It offers a kind

of perspective that  says, ” I am ok amidst and in spite of the storm”



Your breath brings your awareness back into your body temple so that you may use this sacred sanctuary as an instrument. This instrument is your rite of passage to ascertain what is preferential and natural for you. Using your body to navigate through the pathways of life enables you to sense different Energies.




Conscious choice as to what you want to allow into your electromagnetic field is your birthright! It invites you into the realm of deeper and more expansive levels of awareness by which you have the acclivity to discern and make more clarifying choices.


What do you want to put a boundary on?

What is easy and  fluid?

What intersects with you effortlessly?

What feels jagged and forced ?

How do you hold yourself when experiencing the intensities?


Kirk, my beloved often says, “Be mindful of what you say to yourself (even internally)  because you are always listening.




Your body senses all things. It is an instrument in the orchestra of life.  You decide which people, places and things you want to play with and what kind of music you want to create. You express your own soulful sounds and allow that to meld into the most extraordinary symphony.



Nourishing your body so that it might navigate the terrains of the landscape of life for you is Paramount to fulfilling experiences. Breathe into your body, pause,  what do you feel?



Remember that it is possible to feel two contrasting feelings like peace and anxiety simultaneously. I allowed my self to “feel” whatever was happening without attaching rhetoric or a story or “trying” to make myself get “through it”. By allowing myself to sit in the storm, I had a felt perception that I can be with all different aspects of energies that want to move through me. No labeling. No name calling. No judging. Just Being.

Your experience will unfold perfectly for you in the perfect timing.


Mindfulness Practice


Go outside when the weather is rambunctious.

Stand still and imagine you are a TREE

Ground yourself and allow the weather to have its way with you.

Imagine each component of the weather: wind, rain, snow, breeze, temperature to symbolize a different energy.

How do you interact with it?

How might your interpretation be analogous to your life circumstances?



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Sept 2019 Devoted to Anxiety? Ulterior motive?

Devotion to Anxiety has an ulterior motive.

It keeps me Awakening to Me, Enlivening into Life 


Breathing leads the Way!


Devoted to Anxiety? What’s that about? Seems odd!

After all, who wishes to exist in a sea of angst?


Anxiety has riddled through my nervous system for most of my life. Out of breath,
insomnia, fearfulness, racing thoughts, impatience, low frustration levels during major
changes especially when I experience myself as incompetent and fierce anger at my
supposed  helplessness of it all.
I have to say I have adapted quite resourcefully but those resources have changed as I
have grown. I have engaged healthy mechanisms and not so healthy mechanisms to
keep the unnerving sensations and emotions at bay. Anything not to feel that debilitating
gremlin but that little bugger wouldn’t give up on me. It had a message to deliver and
“gosh darn it”, it was going to complete it’s mission.


So what’s the benefit?

Waking up to me, the whole me and nothing but the me.

Resource 1: I engaged in athletics like running, biking , swimming, tennis which helped me gain “control” over my own domain and feel the strength that wanted to pour out of me.
Resource 2: I used narcotics, alcohol and food to numb what was just too much to endure.
Resource 3: Monkey Mind is a kissing cousin which is a total loop in constant motion to keep me really really busy and to not notice anything going on inside. Can you relate?
Resource 4: The PRACTICE OF Conscious, Connected, Deep, Full, Consistent Diaphragmatic Breaths which bring the subconscious realm into my Conscious Awareness for full Integration. The option for CHOICE become clearly apparent.
  In 1991, I dropped into a yoga practice after my hips gave way from the
pounding that the running produced after a couple of really bad car accidents. That was a tough transition to give up that runner’s high and to go from constant movement to a more contemplative practice.
Nevertheless, I found a sense of beauty within myself the
moment I stepped on the top of the yoga mat and placed my hands in prayer position
above my head. I had never felt so safe, so hopeful, so beautiful in my entire life. Who
knew that I would keep this sacred space and maintain the utmost devotion to it. I was
home but little did I know that the party had just begun.
They call yoga a “practice” not a “workout” for a reason. 
Breathing is a practice also. We do it all our lives but its a matter of just how conscious we are of our practice that makes all the difference in our internal environment and external experience.
Actually, our lives are made of one celebratory segment after the next if we allow
ourselves to believe in our essential nature as pure unconditional luminous loving light
energy. Each of our efforts towards self love and joy based living is a Herculean effort 
championing the birth of our new world.
What has changed and how did it unfold?
Well, it’s not over yet!!
First, it is imperative that my perspective starts to shift in which I view any experience.

The way I see it is anxiety, fearfulness, frustration, impatience, overwhelm, anger and any of these other force fields of protection are a way in which we human beings shield ourselves from what might otherwise feel like the energy of


ANGER …. energetically might feel like the sensation of a bolt of lightening striking at us like an energetic dagger but once integrated it might be perceived as excitement, electric, charismatic influence to move forward, self-defining and self-determination. A reclamation of the authenticity screaming for expression.


ANXIETY… energetically might feel like bees buzzing in our ears, pins and needles in the limbs, chaotic exchanges, disarray but once integrated it might be perceived as an unending infinite smorgasbord  of potentialities and possibilities from which to choose. Endless high frequency energy in which to serve the world. So much goodness to process and metabolize. How much joy can this little body embrace?  


OVERWHELM…energetically might feel like  a downward spiral or free fall  with no anchors in which to be attached or due drops of potent emotions dinging, bouncing and tapping at a unknown organism from all angles prompting a spacey, lightheartedness or the desire to completely retreat. Once integrated it might be perceived as a self-relational tool…an internal quest for silence, stillness for the sensitive, tender, open-hearted being. A place where organic boundaries are naturally framed out and the realization of our true tenets in this experience we call life become clearly apparent.




The psyche community calls these emotions a defense but that makes it sound heavy and hard. I think of it as a way in which we resourced ourselves in a very early, energetically open and vulnerable time in our lives.


It’s degrees of  AWARENESS that makes our evolution so  EXCITING!
I wish I could tell you my experiences have all been met  with GRACE and ease but that
has not been my
constitutional viewpoint. In my world, anything worth having has to be hard to obtain or
else my psyche denies it as worthy. That is changing though. 
Can you relate? What a conundrum!
To move from hard to soft had to be a gradual
process to eliminate the element of
striving.  It was like Grace would slither in
between the cracks of my conscious
knowingness  when I was not looking to show
me a unfeddered landscape of
magnanimous proportions.
I was signaled by the divine to give myself
permission to feel any and every single
solitary thing. No holding back. Nothing is too much. Be limitless in my expression,
 every nuance, every iteration, the shadow included!
In opening myself up to this I was met with the ultimate beast.
Trust with a CAPITAL T.
Can I TRUST in the unknown?
Walk into unchartered territory or back down into a familiar comfortable anxious state which served me so well for so long. It is like tearing off my right arm…saying good bye to my best friend for life!
My personal Mantra unleashed itself from my mouth without a thought behind it.
It’s safe to not know, she whispered in my ear.
She prods me, “Say it my love. Say it out loud and with the boldest of strokes to
integrate this hidden aspect into your current reality.
Reclamation! Union! Soulfulness embedded in physicality forever!.”
 What a concept for a girl that really likes to “know”. Stepping into that unchartered
territory and feeling into the abyss of uncertainty can be the most liberating experience
when I allow myself to sit still with it. My brain quiets, anxiety subside, my heart opens
and boundless levels of infinite intelligence gently caresses  by beingingness.
All by allowing!!
She is gentle with me, allowing time to metabolize each graduation of emotions to gain
some semblance of my inner world.  Then In a nano second, I return. I return to the
desire to “know”. How did I do that? Was it me that did that or was it the mysterious,
mystical unknown that led me down a path in which is unfolded.
 Alas, another teaching, more practice,
more non-doing lays the foundation. Stillness speaks more clearly.
Even the wanting to know how to “not do” is doing.
What a
cosmic joke with which I have engaged the Universe.
Let it be! All will be revealed in its own time. Be patient my child. All is well.
So what is a constant consistent AWAKENING!

What does that mean anyway?


It’s different for everyone but the boundless levels of embodied heightened awareness supports us in every experience. Full embodied acceptances guides us towards a life of peace, calm and presence. This improves our physical well being, emotional world and spiritual                  connections and subsequent choices.


All through our very own breath!





The next time you have a pronounced emotional experience, describe it in scientific terms. Describe it as a quality of energy. This will allow the attached story be removed and neutralize its significance to you.



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August 2019 Getting Out of Our Heads and Into Our Hearts

Aug 2019 Getting Out of Our Heads & Into Our Hearts



I believe emphatically that the world would be a much more peaceful place if we moved more our of our heads and into our hearts. The balance between the two centers.  What I mean is if we were able to increasingly….


-TUNE into more of our own subtle emotions rather than deny, suppress or repress them.


-FEEL our innate connection to other people’s vulnerabilities, sensitivities, elation & joy because  they are often a reflection of a deeper aspect of ourselves


-PERCEIVE experientially the effects of our choices which will allow us to understand the causal point more compassionately


-NOTICE the messages that our bodies are sharing with us as simply an imbalance beckoning to be re-harmonized. Consider it to be a physical expression of our internal reality calling for care.


-BE PRESENT with “what is” without changing it which demonstrates love and acceptance


… Then humanity would shift to greater levels of empathy. Kind actions, thoughts and choices towards ourselves and others would be dramatically enhanced. Most likely, we would have no need for hoarding resources, a health care system that thrives on the population’s lack of well-being and actions that stem from fear of disconnection and greed.


When we enter into the exploration of our most tender parts …..when we elect to discover more of our own internal Presence by virtue of quieting the mind, it can start out feeling  like we  are driving a stick shift for the very first time.


For me, it feels like I am grinding the gears……the energy of TRYING. Then, when I least expect it, there is a nano second that opens me to a new expanded version of myself aligned with the perfection of the universe.


When my mind rests, I feel like I am in a convertible with the top down on a mountain peak. I put the car (( metaphorically)  in neutral, it coasts down and gravity pulls me into my center.




Enlivened by the wind flowing through my hair. It is the Universe’s breath refreshing my face with cool vast oxygen.


Air!    Prana!   Chi!    Pure Life Force on Steroids!


It’s emancipating, expansive and liberating beyond measure. The journey smooths itself out until I face yet another layer to be cleared.


After all, we are human and these bodies are available to us for the experience of pleasure and every iteration of that pleasure. Our senses align with our mind’s conviction and associations.


In other words, our mind is simply the vehicle by which we interpret what is pleasurable and what is not.


Sometimes it seems like it’s a long road traveling down from the mind to the heart. After all, our minds are so honored in this society. Logic, reason, & rational take precedent over feeling sensations, exploring emotions and silent stillness. We are perplexed by all the space we are capable of creating.


Why? I believe it is because there is no absolute with emotions. We don’t have as much definable, perceptual control over how they flow, when they arise and when they shift. They seem illusive and mysterious. Emotions are Energy in Motion and we are the vessels by which that energy/emotion is contained, stifled, released and allowed.


Our beautiful minds are the navigating central mechanism by which we can shift that story or association in conjunction with a sensate experience. There are many ways to do this and they all activate your parasympathetic nervous system which is the rest, renew and relax function.


EFT, EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, & Breath work are just to name a few. Personally, I enjoy the breath work because I can viscerally feel the vibration coursing through my body. It is undeniable, indisputable, irrefutable and distinctive.


Just in case my mind want to stir up some doubt, my body will shout out in the language of sensations showing me how every cell in my body is communicating, collaborating and co-creating with one another to epic proportions for my highest good. The energy that the breath creates gives me real living proof of just how resilient, versatile, flexible and flowing my system is.




  I have witnessed in  peoples’ bodies  as well as experienced in my own body uncontrollable shaking. This signified the fear and anxiety that was vacating our physicality. By their own reports, they were left feeling lighter and more expansive. When we breathe a conscious, connected, fully embodied breath, we are masters at moving energy. We are in a better place to explore, discover, shift and ultimately choose the kinds of experiences we desire.





Select a person that you come across in your daily life. A stranger preferably.

Notice their mannerisms, expressions, pitch, tone and intonation.

Make up a story with great detail about what may have prompted the expressions that they were exhibiting.

Come from a place of love.

No bias.

Be elaborate!

Be kind!

Be compassionate!

Be understanding!

Say it out loud if you are alone.


EXAMPLE: You are at a red light and the car next to you is an older, heavier weight male driver  appearing disgruntled and frowns at you while flicking his cigarette your way and inching in front of your lane.


Notice your first train of thought and whether it contained any judgments, pity, criticism, annoyance etc


Take a breath!

Speak out loud.


I see a man who was raised in one of the southern states on a tobacco plantation. He was the last small tobacco sharecropper. He grew his tobacco with organic fertilizer and no pesticides. He rolled his own cigarettes and savored the aroma and taste. He enjoyed offering his brand to local restaurants,  up scale and mid range smoke shops. His brother, son and nephew were his partners and were pushed out by the bigger corporations.  Their whole extended family spent significant time together both in business and in leisure time. One of their favorite things was a big southern festive barbecue  of pork ribs, chicken, corn, fried okra, biscuits, banana cream pies and, of course, scotch. They had so much fun laughing at their grandchildren’s impersonations of  wealthy tobacco owners wearing fancy smoking jackets and talking “big business”.  Ever since they went of business, his brother’ was unable to get on his feet financially. He just found out that his little brother was in trouble with a loan shark and his life was being threatened. He had been  tortured by his lack of power to remedy the situation until he decided to take a risk. Something he would never do. He went to the race track and put all his savings down on the trifecta. He scored and was in a hurry to meet the “carrier” to buy his brother out of trouble. He was saving his younger brother’s life and had words stirring in his mind that he would be quite the lecture.


Notice how you felt before you created the story and how you feel as you embellish from imagination land!!!  You can create any feeling you like!!


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July 2019 A Song: I Breath In and I Breathe Out IS the Cycle of Life

Enjoy this song! It’s all about YOU!!

Your greatest tool for physical well-being, emotional balance, mental clarity and energetic connection lies literally right under your nose.


Allow this song to guide you!


It’s all about YOU!!

It’s all about your Birthright- The Practice of a Fully Embodied Breath!

Your Spirit in Form!


You did not have to earn your conception. The gift of life was given to you!


You did not have to earn your breath. It was given to you as a gift.


You were born worthy, deserving and joyfully present to enjoy air in all of its splendor.

Its yours to take AND to receive!

The gift that your breath offers you every second of every moment of every hour of every day, week, month and year of your life is the portal into your eternal nature!


From the  very first inhalation upon birth (into a glorious sanctuary of a body temple you call  home while enjoying your own humanity)……… all the way to the very last exhale back into pure unconditional luminous loving light energy.



We are all conduits of divine excellence.
Declare your Intention and watch your breath support its unfolding!
Every inhale is a birth.    Every exhale is a transition!

Every inhale is a receiving. Every exhale is an offering.


Every inhale invites an opening. Every exhale offers closure.


Every inhale expands. Every exhale releases.


Every inhale draws in information. Every exhale creates expression!


Every inhale and exhale allows us to know ourselves more deeply and intimately.


Through every inhale and exhale is the cycle of life.


What inherently lies within that ebb and flow is the miraculous ability to choose our own personal self- reflection.

It is from the empowerment of that  choice that we gracefully respond to what no longer serves or is no longer desired.


We are born anew!
Listen to the song and tune into the sacred space your breath avails
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JUNE 2019 Breathing In & Through My “Comparathon”

Breathing In & Through My “COMPARATHON”


When facing big transitions in my life, there is a part of me that leads me directly to the COMPARATHON!   


Sure why not?



There is a part of my psyche that says, “If I am feeling too much bliss, ecstasy, joy, balance or presence, you are NOT in CONTROL  Darryn!!! The other shoe might drop so you had better take the reins.”  If things are too good, going too smoothly, in flux and changing faster than you can keep up, have some stress sprinkles on the occasion. You are used to that! It is known and familiar! 


Can you relate?


What an event! It is an extravaganza like no other!  There are trails of envy, pathways of jealously, roads of rage, scarcity rides and frustration fun houses. I compare myself to others, circumstances or even to an idealic version of myself couched in my own potentiality i.e.  “If only my skill set was….or If only I could exercise XYZ quality”.  This part likes to bathe in victim energy and bathe in it luxuriously I might add.




A very intolerable experience. Pure torture! One I would prefer to skip entirely and I would if it wasn’t serving me so well…at least for the moment! (Anything we do not release is serving us in some way, shape or form)


There was one particular circumstance in which jealousy had the best of me. I knew this had nothing to do with the other people involved. It had all to do with Me, Myself and I.  It’s rough when you cannot use the blame game. When you know everything begins and ends with yourself. When you know that everything happening in your life is simply an out picturing of your own belief system or more likely a belief system that was imprinted upon you. But baby, now it’s yours to clean up.


Even though I knew the truth on some level…. that I was (still AM) a point of pure light glistening in the perfection of the Universe, I could not FEEL it.  What good is knowing something unless you can FEEL it!!


 The thoughts and subsequent feelings were relentless, seemingly everlasting and pure torture. I could not shake the shame, the guilt for how I was feeling and the desire to crawl up into a little ball and hide. As I became more  impatient & intolerant of myself,  the FEAR only intensified!


There is a reason they say what you resist, persists and it sure did!





The jealousy thing was rearing its ugly head and I knew the only thing I could do was to LOVE IT!!! Yes, you heard me LOVE IT. But it feels so disgusting and shameful. Try  loving a slimy, morphing, slippery sucker of a leech! I dare you!



How could I love a part of myself that I deem to be unlovable?


How could I admit and express this darkness? 


How does one sit still with this ugliness and invite it closer?


One morning I awakened at 4:45 am. I had had enough. The pain was too much. I wanted relief.  I went into our Breath Studio, set an intention, declared some invocations, put on the 60 minute playlist and started the practice of a conscious, connected diaphragmatic breath.


At first, the cynic was present as it always is because it is my armor. It still takes me a bit of time to drop into my body and leave the mind behind.


I cried!

 I raged!

I toned!

I moved my body!


Lo and behold some “thing” shifted my energy. “I” did not change it but I experienced a different state of consciousness, one filled with a LOVINGLY FELT perception. Sure, I showed up and did my part but this was so clearly discernible.  It was in such a deep contrast to what I was feeling before my self-session.


I FELT an unprecedented level of expansion, freedom, relief, heart opening, gratitude and appreciation for the circumstance and the people involved. It was like I was looking through the eyes of the Divine and my understanding





That same day I was able to connect with the people in this particular situation. I remembered the situation but there was no longer fire in my emotional charge. My heart streaming with loving consciousness. It was real, authentic and I felt FREE!!! Very powerful stuff!


I am not bullshitting you. I would not do that!!!!


this was a self-session!!!


Then, I shared this story at yoga studio where my beloved Kirk and I were facilitating a Transformational Breath® Introductory Workshop. I wanted them to know one of the transformational miracles I had directly experienced with this breath work. I truly crossed over into a new founded form.


There was a person that expressed the notion that “jealousy” was not very “yogini like”. My response to this is that we are all human and we have the full spectrum of emotions whether we admit to it or not.


It is crucially important for us all to make the effort to



Remember Law of Attraction?

What do you think LOA really means?


Well, the world is a tapestry of our collective internal psyches. Look below the surface and you will find that what we tend to resist will persist until we love, forgive and be gentle with ourselves.


It is easy to love a friend but loving an enemy takes real courage! What gremlins inside you are beckoning for some TLC? Give it to them!


Imagine a world whereby we all found peace within ourselves.  


Imagine a world where we held the capacity to be with ALL OF OUR emotions until those energies felt safe to move on their own rather than stay stuck in our physical, mental, emotional or ethereal bodies. They could be acknowledged and then feel free to move or dissolve. 


It would be a world with no blame game.

No shame!

All inclusive!!!

We all took radical responsibility for our own emotions, thoughts and feelings and were able to own them.

These emotions were are great messenger carrying me to an even more open frontier.

I feel much lighter!




I am sure I will be beckoning you again and again! 











Lie down, close your eyes and receive a few cleansing breaths

In your imagination, see yourself:

-Sitting in a chair.

-Across from you is yourself, a more luminous, all knowing version of yourself. Very ethereal

-Drop your focus down into the center of your heart.

-Settle in and take your time ( Breathe fully yet gently here)

-Connect with yourself with your gaze: eye to eye contact.

-Share out loud with your higher self how your human self is feeling.

-Ask for what you need to feel safe, secure and loved.

-If you feel uncomfortable, confused or do not know what you need stay with the emotion.

-Just sit with it and breathe!

-When you are ready to close your mini self session, imagine speckled stardust falling all around you to insulate and protect you.





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May 2019 Surrender Your Need to Always be Right- Big EXHALE


and then there’s a Big Exhale



Recently, I attended a lengthy meditation event. The room was set up with cushions in a circular fashion. We were invited to enter the room individually while walking in silence until we found just the perfect cushion. I walked around the outskirts of the circle starting at 6 0’clock moving clockwise all the way to 3 O’clock where I finally found my seat. It was as though this particular location was emanating a vibration that aligned with what my soul was calling forth. It was pure perfection and you will soon realize why.


There were oracle cards in front of each cushion. Once we were all settled, we went around the room, introduced ourselves, and shared the card and our intention for the meditation session.


My card read, “Surrender Your need to always be right!”



I chuckled out loud and so did a few of the other women. They knew themselves astutely well and were able to relate to the humor with which our own foibles provided us. I laughed because I had been reflecting on this very thing as I drove to the event.

Breathing in Joy Exhaling “What-ever-ness”




How cool is Spirit to confirm its tracking right along side of me!  Talk about Interconnectedness!






Do you want to be RIGHT or do you want to be HAPPY the slogan says yet sometimes my MIND still chooses to be right!




Can you relate?


There is a kind of emancipation within when we can be honest with ourselves and see the humor simultaneously! Isn’t that what comedians do. They find the most ordinary things that so many people can relate to and pull it out for the world to see in plain sight!!!!



Have a good laugh about yourself!!  

It’s cathartic!

“How perfect is spirit”, I thought. “Such glorious wisdom couched in a cosmic joke!!”


I like to be RIGHT AND I like to be HAPPY AND I am lovable inside it all AND so are YOU!! 


For those of you who are a bit hard on yourself……..


What can you name about yourself that you want to let go of AND still OWN or recognize that you are a precious child of the Universe!! TRY IT, you’ll like it! It’s how SPIRIT sees you!

Shout it out and FREE YOUR VOICE!!


Do it right now! Doing it is different than reading or thinking about it.

                                                Find a friend or a partner and do it together.


Ex: Sometimes I act or behave controlling/over planning AND I the thing I find comedic (or the subsequent gift) about it is the physical posturing of walking with my head three feet in front of my ass. I mean, how far into the future do I think I can get my head  while my bum stays in the past ?


  • Laughing helps you breath more deeply!!





Of course my MIND wants a seat at the table and wants its own explanation also.


So what is this need to always be right?


So many people have it and we could define it in terms of the ego but because most people have a negative association with the term ego (which it is not) that would leave us in a place of separation, duality, black/white thinking i.e.

“This is good and that is bad. This is right and that is wrong.”


The HEART chimes in , “ Where is the love, understanding and compassion in that?”



The societal ego’s perspective only drives a deeper wedge into our experience. What if we explored, and developed some felt perceptive understanding of this “need to be right”. What if we discovered that it was an invaluable tool that kept us protected as youngsters and insulated us from a situation/dynamic we once perceived as dangerous.




When we align ourselves with a kind of perfection, it certainly shelters us from our vulnerability and sensitive posturing which so desperately wants to be safely insulated. We all have it in some variation and it is a personal choice to surrender internally, privately and safely to an experience of deep personal humiliation and see that we are not annihilated but set free by our willingness to draw it closer, give it space, name it and allow it to be felt.


Breathing in and out fully and connectedly might offer that little creature inside us that is beckoning for a kind of softening, a release and a new way of being in the world.  The world of Yin, leaning back, of allowing, of receiving, of soaring creation, of a little chaotic craziness for our BLOOMING HEART TO  FLOWER!  


Artwork by Jordyn Silver www.jordyn-silver.com


It’s Amazing, fascinating, exhilarating and dynamically interesting to give ourselves permission to “be” essentially ourselves on the inside.



Permission to receive.


Permission to allow our worthiness to permeate our beingness.


Permission to sit in joy.


Permission to love life.


Permission to be fully human and allow all parts to be fully acceptable even what might be deemed “negative” by societal terms.


Permission for softness

It’s messy. It’s nonlinear. We don’t experience our growth by going from point A to point Z in one fell swoop.



It’s A to H  

back to F

Plateauing and consolidating, synthesizing

swooping for a back check to down to D

climbing to P

more integrating to T

back to L for more exploration and so on and this is an example in only 2 D.                                                         


Imagine 5 D. We are all over the MAP!



It’s more challenging for the mind to make sense of it but the body knows because it FEELS.


The world does not tend to accept the parts we name as ugly but are you living for the world or are you living for your SELF??



Often, we hear that that emotions are simply energy in motion. Emotions are always wanting to move and when we storehouse some emotions out of fear (meaning it was out of a self-preservation that we were unable to feel them fully in years past), we build a reservoir until it congeals or calcifies in part of the psyche and maybe even physically in the body if left unnoticed or unattended for long enough. That is what dis-ease is….. a build up of imbalances “Calling for Care”.


Inhaling and Exhaling  mindfully reminds us that our breath connects us all. Our breath moves energy and integrates emotions.


So what is your thing to Surrender and how does your BODY respond to words  of COMPASSION and KINDNESS.


BREATHE while you experiment with which feels better (Words have a vibrational countenance to them also)


Surrender to your need:

For things to be hard vs Surrender to your desire for a gentle flow of EFFORTLESSNESS!


To be busy vs Surrender to your creation of ease, grace and steadiness in this MOMENT.


To your experience of depletion vs Surrender to the NOW where all energy resides ABUNDANTLY.


For pain vs Surrender to your natural state of WHOLENESS.


-To be invisible vs Surrender to your full undivided PRESENCE.


-For judgment vs Surrender to Kindness, love, Compassion and INNER PEACE


On www.gaia.com What it Means to be a Conscious Being on Quantum Effect by Randy Veitenheimer, he talks about Creative Consciousness is where we are best able to express ourselves.


He references Yogi Bhajan who came to the United State decades ago to guide western civilization into higher levels of consciousness and a quote from 2003.


“A new age calls for it’s own words to live by”


Also, Randy references the The Sutras, complex spiritual concepts, which allowed sacred teachings to be protected from harm and brief enough to be remembered by students and guides us to move upward in our levels of consciousness . He reviews five of them but the two that stood out for me were  


Understanding through compassion or you will misunderstand the times. Ego wants to be right and the compassion requires the truth. If you seek the truth you will not misunderstand the person in front of you nor the circumstances around you.


Vibrate the cosmos and the cosmos shall clear the path. Do not underestimate the internal shifts that you are navigating though. You are a spiritual warrior! A priestess of the highest regard. They matter. You are significant and it is having an effect on the whole. You are changing yourself, your relationships and the world around you.





Practice the exercise given in the body of this blog




We tend to store a lot of our tension, anger and resentment in our jaws. We might not even be aware of what we are holding and that is ok. We do not need to know the story. That is for the mind. This is for the heart and the body.


-Put on a song that has no lyrics ( about 10 min)


-Maybe light some candles


-State a personal invocation. If you do not know how to do that, see the MINDFULNESS PRACTICE on the blog page for Feb 2019 


-Get a deck of oracle cards that call you


-Set your intention and write it down in your journal as the revelations might come later. Perhaps set an intention to perceive a person, situation, relationship or circumstance differently that you currently do. To gain insight and understanding from an open unprotected heart!


-Select a card ( write it in your journal)


-Lie down and begin to breath diaphragmatically


-Notice where there might be tension in your body and apply slight pressure there with your finger while you continue to breath


-Also, consider applying a bit of pressure on your jaw and notice what you experience


-See if you notice a connection between the card and your intention over the next several days


Also, consider setting up a session with Kirk. They call him the “Throat Whisperer” because he is so adept and intuitive with the areas of the throat, neck, shoulder and subsequent areas of emotional expression. You can contact him through this link https://darrynsilver.com/contact/



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