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August 2019 Getting Out of Our Heads and Into Our Hearts

Aug 2019 Getting Out of Our Heads & Into Our Hearts

 

 

I believe emphatically that the world would be a much more peaceful place if we moved more our of our heads and into our hearts. The balance between the two centers.  What I mean is if we were able to increasingly….

 

-TUNE into more of our own subtle emotions rather than deny, suppress or repress them.

 

-FEEL our innate connection to other people’s vulnerabilities, sensitivities, elation & joy because  they are often a reflection of a deeper aspect of ourselves

 

-PERCEIVE experientially the effects of our choices which will allow us to understand the causal point more compassionately

 

-NOTICE the messages that our bodies are sharing with us as simply an imbalance beckoning to be re-harmonized. Consider it to be a physical expression of our internal reality calling for care.

 

-BE PRESENT with “what is” without changing it which demonstrates love and acceptance

 

… Then humanity would shift to greater levels of empathy. Kind actions, thoughts and choices towards ourselves and others would be dramatically enhanced. Most likely, we would have no need for hoarding resources, a health care system that thrives on the population’s lack of well-being and actions that stem from fear of disconnection and greed.

 

When we enter into the exploration of our most tender parts …..when we elect to discover more of our own internal Presence by virtue of quieting the mind, it can start out feeling  like we  are driving a stick shift for the very first time.

 

For me, it feels like I am grinding the gears……the energy of TRYING. Then, when I least expect it, there is a nano second that opens me to a new expanded version of myself aligned with the perfection of the universe.

 

When my mind rests, I feel like I am in a convertible with the top down on a mountain peak. I put the car (( metaphorically)  in neutral, it coasts down and gravity pulls me into my center.

 

AHHHH ! THE HOLY NEUTRAL AT LAST! 

 

Enlivened by the wind flowing through my hair. It is the Universe’s breath refreshing my face with cool vast oxygen.

 

Air!    Prana!   Chi!    Pure Life Force on Steroids!

 

It’s emancipating, expansive and liberating beyond measure. The journey smooths itself out until I face yet another layer to be cleared.

 

After all, we are human and these bodies are available to us for the experience of pleasure and every iteration of that pleasure. Our senses align with our mind’s conviction and associations.

 

In other words, our mind is simply the vehicle by which we interpret what is pleasurable and what is not.

 

Sometimes it seems like it’s a long road traveling down from the mind to the heart. After all, our minds are so honored in this society. Logic, reason, & rational take precedent over feeling sensations, exploring emotions and silent stillness. We are perplexed by all the space we are capable of creating.

 

Why? I believe it is because there is no absolute with emotions. We don’t have as much definable, perceptual control over how they flow, when they arise and when they shift. They seem illusive and mysterious. Emotions are Energy in Motion and we are the vessels by which that energy/emotion is contained, stifled, released and allowed.

 

Our beautiful minds are the navigating central mechanism by which we can shift that story or association in conjunction with a sensate experience. There are many ways to do this and they all activate your parasympathetic nervous system which is the rest, renew and relax function.

 

EFT, EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, & Breath work are just to name a few. Personally, I enjoy the breath work because I can viscerally feel the vibration coursing through my body. It is undeniable, indisputable, irrefutable and distinctive.

 

Just in case my mind want to stir up some doubt, my body will shout out in the language of sensations showing me how every cell in my body is communicating, collaborating and co-creating with one another to epic proportions for my highest good. The energy that the breath creates gives me real living proof of just how resilient, versatile, flexible and flowing my system is.

 

AND SO IS YOURS!!!!

 

  I have witnessed in  peoples’ bodies  as well as experienced in my own body uncontrollable shaking. This signified the fear and anxiety that was vacating our physicality. By their own reports, they were left feeling lighter and more expansive. When we breathe a conscious, connected, fully embodied breath, we are masters at moving energy. We are in a better place to explore, discover, shift and ultimately choose the kinds of experiences we desire.

 

 

MINDFULNESS PRACTICE

 

Select a person that you come across in your daily life. A stranger preferably.

Notice their mannerisms, expressions, pitch, tone and intonation.

Make up a story with great detail about what may have prompted the expressions that they were exhibiting.

Come from a place of love.

No bias.

Be elaborate!

Be kind!

Be compassionate!

Be understanding!

Say it out loud if you are alone.

 

EXAMPLE: You are at a red light and the car next to you is an older, heavier weight male driver  appearing disgruntled and frowns at you while flicking his cigarette your way and inching in front of your lane.

 

Notice your first train of thought and whether it contained any judgments, pity, criticism, annoyance etc

Pause!

Take a breath!

Speak out loud.

 

I see a man who was raised in one of the southern states on a tobacco plantation. He was the last small tobacco sharecropper. He grew his tobacco with organic fertilizer and no pesticides. He rolled his own cigarettes and savored the aroma and taste. He enjoyed offering his brand to local restaurants,  up scale and mid range smoke shops. His brother, son and nephew were his partners and were pushed out by the bigger corporations.  Their whole extended family spent significant time together both in business and in leisure time. One of their favorite things was a big southern festive barbecue  of pork ribs, chicken, corn, fried okra, biscuits, banana cream pies and, of course, scotch. They had so much fun laughing at their grandchildren’s impersonations of  wealthy tobacco owners wearing fancy smoking jackets and talking “big business”.  Ever since they went of business, his brother’ was unable to get on his feet financially. He just found out that his little brother was in trouble with a loan shark and his life was being threatened. He had been  tortured by his lack of power to remedy the situation until he decided to take a risk. Something he would never do. He went to the race track and put all his savings down on the trifecta. He scored and was in a hurry to meet the “carrier” to buy his brother out of trouble. He was saving his younger brother’s life and had words stirring in his mind that he would be quite the lecture.

 

Notice how you felt before you created the story and how you feel as you embellish from imagination land!!!  You can create any feeling you like!!

 

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2015-2019  ©  Darryn Silver all rights reserved

 

 

 

July 2019 A Song: I Breath In and I Breathe Out IS the Cycle of Life

Enjoy this song! It’s all about YOU!!

Your greatest tool for physical well-being, emotional balance, mental clarity and energetic connection lies literally right under your nose.

 

Allow this song to guide you!

 

It’s all about YOU!!

It’s all about your Birthright- The Practice of a Fully Embodied Breath!

Your Spirit in Form!

 

You did not have to earn your conception. The gift of life was given to you!

 

You did not have to earn your breath. It was given to you as a gift.

 

You were born worthy, deserving and joyfully present to enjoy air in all of its splendor.

Its yours to take AND to receive!

The gift that your breath offers you every second of every moment of every hour of every day, week, month and year of your life is the portal into your eternal nature!

 

From the  very first inhalation upon birth (into a glorious sanctuary of a body temple you call  home while enjoying your own humanity)……… all the way to the very last exhale back into pure unconditional luminous loving light energy.

 

 

We are all conduits of divine excellence.
Declare your Intention and watch your breath support its unfolding!
Every inhale is a birth.    Every exhale is a transition!

Every inhale is a receiving. Every exhale is an offering.

 

Every inhale invites an opening. Every exhale offers closure.

 

Every inhale expands. Every exhale releases.

 

Every inhale draws in information. Every exhale creates expression!

 

Every inhale and exhale allows us to know ourselves more deeply and intimately.

 

Through every inhale and exhale is the cycle of life.

 

What inherently lies within that ebb and flow is the miraculous ability to choose our own personal self- reflection.

It is from the empowerment of that  choice that we gracefully respond to what no longer serves or is no longer desired.

 

We are born anew!
MINDFULNESS PRACTICE
Listen to the song and tune into the sacred space your breath avails
2015-2019  ©  Darryn Silver all rights reserved

JUNE 2019 Breathing In & Through My “Comparathon”

Breathing In & Through My “COMPARATHON”

 

When facing big transitions in my life, there is a part of me that leads me directly to the COMPARATHON!   

 

Sure why not?

 

 

There is a part of my psyche that says, “If I am feeling too much bliss, ecstasy, joy, balance or presence, you are NOT in CONTROL  Darryn!!! The other shoe might drop so you had better take the reins.”  If things are too good, going too smoothly, in flux and changing faster than you can keep up, have some stress sprinkles on the occasion. You are used to that! It is known and familiar! 

 

Can you relate?

 

What an event! It is an extravaganza like no other!  There are trails of envy, pathways of jealously, roads of rage, scarcity rides and frustration fun houses. I compare myself to others, circumstances or even to an idealic version of myself couched in my own potentiality i.e.  “If only my skill set was….or If only I could exercise XYZ quality”.  This part likes to bathe in victim energy and bathe in it luxuriously I might add.

 

 

 

A very intolerable experience. Pure torture! One I would prefer to skip entirely and I would if it wasn’t serving me so well…at least for the moment! (Anything we do not release is serving us in some way, shape or form)

 

There was one particular circumstance in which jealousy had the best of me. I knew this had nothing to do with the other people involved. It had all to do with Me, Myself and I.  It’s rough when you cannot use the blame game. When you know everything begins and ends with yourself. When you know that everything happening in your life is simply an out picturing of your own belief system or more likely a belief system that was imprinted upon you. But baby, now it’s yours to clean up.

 

Even though I knew the truth on some level…. that I was (still AM) a point of pure light glistening in the perfection of the Universe, I could not FEEL it.  What good is knowing something unless you can FEEL it!!

 

 The thoughts and subsequent feelings were relentless, seemingly everlasting and pure torture. I could not shake the shame, the guilt for how I was feeling and the desire to crawl up into a little ball and hide. As I became more  impatient & intolerant of myself,  the FEAR only intensified!

 

There is a reason they say what you resist, persists and it sure did!

 

 

 

 

The jealousy thing was rearing its ugly head and I knew the only thing I could do was to LOVE IT!!! Yes, you heard me LOVE IT. But it feels so disgusting and shameful. Try  loving a slimy, morphing, slippery sucker of a leech! I dare you!

 

 

How could I love a part of myself that I deem to be unlovable?

 

How could I admit and express this darkness? 

 

How does one sit still with this ugliness and invite it closer?

 

One morning I awakened at 4:45 am. I had had enough. The pain was too much. I wanted relief.  I went into our Breath Studio, set an intention, declared some invocations, put on the 60 minute playlist and started the practice of a conscious, connected diaphragmatic breath.

 

At first, the cynic was present as it always is because it is my armor. It still takes me a bit of time to drop into my body and leave the mind behind.

 

I cried!

 I raged!

I toned!

I moved my body!

 

Lo and behold some “thing” shifted my energy. “I” did not change it but I experienced a different state of consciousness, one filled with a LOVINGLY FELT perception. Sure, I showed up and did my part but this was so clearly discernible.  It was in such a deep contrast to what I was feeling before my self-session.

 

I FELT an unprecedented level of expansion, freedom, relief, heart opening, gratitude and appreciation for the circumstance and the people involved. It was like I was looking through the eyes of the Divine and my understanding

EXPONENTIATED!

 

 

 

That same day I was able to connect with the people in this particular situation. I remembered the situation but there was no longer fire in my emotional charge. My heart streaming with loving consciousness. It was real, authentic and I felt FREE!!! Very powerful stuff!

 

I am not bullshitting you. I would not do that!!!!

AND

this was a self-session!!!

 

Then, I shared this story at yoga studio where my beloved Kirk and I were facilitating a Transformational Breath® Introductory Workshop. I wanted them to know one of the transformational miracles I had directly experienced with this breath work. I truly crossed over into a new founded form.

 

There was a person that expressed the notion that “jealousy” was not very “yogini like”. My response to this is that we are all human and we have the full spectrum of emotions whether we admit to it or not.

 

It is crucially important for us all to make the effort to

LOVE ALL PARTS OF OURSELVES. 

 

Remember Law of Attraction?

What do you think LOA really means?

 

Well, the world is a tapestry of our collective internal psyches. Look below the surface and you will find that what we tend to resist will persist until we love, forgive and be gentle with ourselves.

 

It is easy to love a friend but loving an enemy takes real courage! What gremlins inside you are beckoning for some TLC? Give it to them!

 

Imagine a world whereby we all found peace within ourselves.  

 

Imagine a world where we held the capacity to be with ALL OF OUR emotions until those energies felt safe to move on their own rather than stay stuck in our physical, mental, emotional or ethereal bodies. They could be acknowledged and then feel free to move or dissolve. 

 

It would be a world with no blame game.

No shame!

All inclusive!!!

We all took radical responsibility for our own emotions, thoughts and feelings and were able to own them.

These emotions were are great messenger carrying me to an even more open frontier.

I feel much lighter!

 

THANK YOU SPIRIT!

 

I am sure I will be beckoning you again and again! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

MINDFULNESS PRACTICE:

 

Lie down, close your eyes and receive a few cleansing breaths

In your imagination, see yourself:

-Sitting in a chair.

-Across from you is yourself, a more luminous, all knowing version of yourself. Very ethereal

-Drop your focus down into the center of your heart.

-Settle in and take your time ( Breathe fully yet gently here)

-Connect with yourself with your gaze: eye to eye contact.

-Share out loud with your higher self how your human self is feeling.

-Ask for what you need to feel safe, secure and loved.

-If you feel uncomfortable, confused or do not know what you need stay with the emotion.

-Just sit with it and breathe!

-When you are ready to close your mini self session, imagine speckled stardust falling all around you to insulate and protect you.

 

 

 

 

2015-2019  ©  Darryn Silver all rights reserved

May 2019 Surrender Your Need to Always be Right- Big EXHALE

May 2019 SURRENDER YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT

and then there’s a Big Exhale

 

 

Recently, I attended a lengthy meditation event. The room was set up with cushions in a circular fashion. We were invited to enter the room individually while walking in silence until we found just the perfect cushion. I walked around the outskirts of the circle starting at 6 0’clock moving clockwise all the way to 3 O’clock where I finally found my seat. It was as though this particular location was emanating a vibration that aligned with what my soul was calling forth. It was pure perfection and you will soon realize why.

 

There were oracle cards in front of each cushion. Once we were all settled, we went around the room, introduced ourselves, and shared the card and our intention for the meditation session.

 

My card read, “Surrender Your need to always be right!”

 

 

I chuckled out loud and so did a few of the other women. They knew themselves astutely well and were able to relate to the humor with which our own foibles provided us. I laughed because I had been reflecting on this very thing as I drove to the event.

Breathing in Joy Exhaling “What-ever-ness”

 

 

 

How cool is Spirit to confirm its tracking right along side of me!  Talk about Interconnectedness!

 

 

 

 

 

Do you want to be RIGHT or do you want to be HAPPY the slogan says yet sometimes my MIND still chooses to be right!

 

 

 

Can you relate?

 

There is a kind of emancipation within when we can be honest with ourselves and see the humor simultaneously! Isn’t that what comedians do. They find the most ordinary things that so many people can relate to and pull it out for the world to see in plain sight!!!!

 

 

Have a good laugh about yourself!!  

It’s cathartic!

“How perfect is spirit”, I thought. “Such glorious wisdom couched in a cosmic joke!!”

 

I like to be RIGHT AND I like to be HAPPY AND I am lovable inside it all AND so are YOU!! 

 

For those of you who are a bit hard on yourself……..

 

What can you name about yourself that you want to let go of AND still OWN or recognize that you are a precious child of the Universe!! TRY IT, you’ll like it! It’s how SPIRIT sees you!

Shout it out and FREE YOUR VOICE!!

 

Do it right now! Doing it is different than reading or thinking about it.

                                                Find a friend or a partner and do it together.

 

Ex: Sometimes I act or behave controlling/over planning AND I the thing I find comedic (or the subsequent gift) about it is the physical posturing of walking with my head three feet in front of my ass. I mean, how far into the future do I think I can get my head  while my bum stays in the past ?

 

  • Laughing helps you breath more deeply!!

 

 

 

 

Of course my MIND wants a seat at the table and wants its own explanation also.

 

So what is this need to always be right?

 

So many people have it and we could define it in terms of the ego but because most people have a negative association with the term ego (which it is not) that would leave us in a place of separation, duality, black/white thinking i.e.

“This is good and that is bad. This is right and that is wrong.”

 

The HEART chimes in , “ Where is the love, understanding and compassion in that?”

 

 

The societal ego’s perspective only drives a deeper wedge into our experience. What if we explored, and developed some felt perceptive understanding of this “need to be right”. What if we discovered that it was an invaluable tool that kept us protected as youngsters and insulated us from a situation/dynamic we once perceived as dangerous.

 

 

 

When we align ourselves with a kind of perfection, it certainly shelters us from our vulnerability and sensitive posturing which so desperately wants to be safely insulated. We all have it in some variation and it is a personal choice to surrender internally, privately and safely to an experience of deep personal humiliation and see that we are not annihilated but set free by our willingness to draw it closer, give it space, name it and allow it to be felt.

 

Breathing in and out fully and connectedly might offer that little creature inside us that is beckoning for a kind of softening, a release and a new way of being in the world.  The world of Yin, leaning back, of allowing, of receiving, of soaring creation, of a little chaotic craziness for our BLOOMING HEART TO  FLOWER!  

 

Artwork by Jordyn Silver www.jordyn-silver.com

 

It’s Amazing, fascinating, exhilarating and dynamically interesting to give ourselves permission to “be” essentially ourselves on the inside.

 

 

Permission to receive.

 

Permission to allow our worthiness to permeate our beingness.

 

Permission to sit in joy.

 

Permission to love life.

 

Permission to be fully human and allow all parts to be fully acceptable even what might be deemed “negative” by societal terms.

 

Permission for softness

It’s messy. It’s nonlinear. We don’t experience our growth by going from point A to point Z in one fell swoop.

 

 

It’s A to H  

back to F

Plateauing and consolidating, synthesizing

swooping for a back check to down to D

climbing to P

more integrating to T

back to L for more exploration and so on and this is an example in only 2 D.                                                         

 

Imagine 5 D. We are all over the MAP!

 

 

It’s more challenging for the mind to make sense of it but the body knows because it FEELS.

 

The world does not tend to accept the parts we name as ugly but are you living for the world or are you living for your SELF??

 

 

Often, we hear that that emotions are simply energy in motion. Emotions are always wanting to move and when we storehouse some emotions out of fear (meaning it was out of a self-preservation that we were unable to feel them fully in years past), we build a reservoir until it congeals or calcifies in part of the psyche and maybe even physically in the body if left unnoticed or unattended for long enough. That is what dis-ease is….. a build up of imbalances “Calling for Care”.

 

Inhaling and Exhaling  mindfully reminds us that our breath connects us all. Our breath moves energy and integrates emotions.

 

So what is your thing to Surrender and how does your BODY respond to words  of COMPASSION and KINDNESS.

 

BREATHE while you experiment with which feels better (Words have a vibrational countenance to them also)

 

Surrender to your need:

For things to be hard vs Surrender to your desire for a gentle flow of EFFORTLESSNESS!

 

To be busy vs Surrender to your creation of ease, grace and steadiness in this MOMENT.

 

To your experience of depletion vs Surrender to the NOW where all energy resides ABUNDANTLY.

 

For pain vs Surrender to your natural state of WHOLENESS.

 

-To be invisible vs Surrender to your full undivided PRESENCE.

 

-For judgment vs Surrender to Kindness, love, Compassion and INNER PEACE

 

On www.gaia.com What it Means to be a Conscious Being on Quantum Effect by Randy Veitenheimer, he talks about Creative Consciousness is where we are best able to express ourselves.

 

He references Yogi Bhajan who came to the United State decades ago to guide western civilization into higher levels of consciousness and a quote from 2003.

 

“A new age calls for it’s own words to live by”

 

Also, Randy references the The Sutras, complex spiritual concepts, which allowed sacred teachings to be protected from harm and brief enough to be remembered by students and guides us to move upward in our levels of consciousness . He reviews five of them but the two that stood out for me were  

 

Understanding through compassion or you will misunderstand the times. Ego wants to be right and the compassion requires the truth. If you seek the truth you will not misunderstand the person in front of you nor the circumstances around you.

 

Vibrate the cosmos and the cosmos shall clear the path. Do not underestimate the internal shifts that you are navigating though. You are a spiritual warrior! A priestess of the highest regard. They matter. You are significant and it is having an effect on the whole. You are changing yourself, your relationships and the world around you.

 

 

MINDFULNESS EXERCISE #1

 

Practice the exercise given in the body of this blog

 

MINDFULNESS PRACTICE #2

 

We tend to store a lot of our tension, anger and resentment in our jaws. We might not even be aware of what we are holding and that is ok. We do not need to know the story. That is for the mind. This is for the heart and the body.

 

-Put on a song that has no lyrics ( about 10 min)

 

-Maybe light some candles

 

-State a personal invocation. If you do not know how to do that, see the MINDFULNESS PRACTICE on the blog page for Feb 2019 

 

-Get a deck of oracle cards that call you

 

-Set your intention and write it down in your journal as the revelations might come later. Perhaps set an intention to perceive a person, situation, relationship or circumstance differently that you currently do. To gain insight and understanding from an open unprotected heart!

 

-Select a card ( write it in your journal)

 

-Lie down and begin to breath diaphragmatically

 

-Notice where there might be tension in your body and apply slight pressure there with your finger while you continue to breath

 

-Also, consider applying a bit of pressure on your jaw and notice what you experience

 

-See if you notice a connection between the card and your intention over the next several days

 

Also, consider setting up a session with Kirk. They call him the “Throat Whisperer” because he is so adept and intuitive with the areas of the throat, neck, shoulder and subsequent areas of emotional expression. You can contact him through this link http://darrynsilver.com/contact/

 

 

2015-2019  ©  Darryn Silver all rights reserved

 

April 2019 A True Story: An Abundant Breath

A True Story: An Abundant Breath

 

This is a true story of a very sweet soul from the Netherlands by the name of Corina De Jongh Crientjuh that came across my path.

 

The story starts when Corina was 13 years old and spent one month in the hospital due to consistent headaches. She was an active child with sports activities as a regular part of her repertoire so it was left that she simply “did” too much. Since there were no  findings, she simply slowed down a bit and went on with her life.

 

As the years passed, she became a mother raising her daughter independently,  got her nursing & social work degrees while working to administer care for people of all types.

Oddly enough, people with emphysema were high on her list and this was no coincidence.

 

 

By age 37, Corina noticed how people seemed to walk faster than her and how tired she was most of the time. She scheduled and appointment with a pulmonologist and discovered she only had 45% lung capacity. She was diagnosed with a very rare disease called  “Vikings Disease” which leads to emphysema. ( More about it at https://www.alpha1.org/Newly-Diagnosed/More-Alpha-1-Resources)

 

By age 40, she had to stop working and began researching on the internet for possible solutions. Her health was on a fast track downward spiral.

 

By age 48 she was in a wheelchair and couldn’t walk much of any distance nor carry her oxygen container but she was relentless in her pursuit of another pathway to EMBRACE.

 

 

She started her personal exploration through food as medicine, attending workshops online with David Wolf, Brian Clement (Hippocrates Health Institute) and many others.

 

Her lung capacity fell to 22% by 2013 and was finally placed on the list for a lung transplant.  In December 2014 she felt a sensation like a knife going through her lung and she stated out loud to her mother, ” I have a collapsed lung. I just know it. I need a transplant or else I will die.”

 

During this time she had 24 hrs./day home care with 20 nurses assisting her on a variety of shifts. Nevertheless, Corina stayed the course with meditation and mindfulness practices until August 2015 when  she finally received a lung transplant. The recovery would take 2 years of physical therapy, yoga, swimming, exercising on the treadmill which she did without fail 6 days a week. Now, she was able to breathe more deeply which gave her the strength and physical capacity to walk and move about.

 

It was/is more than physical though. It was/is a mental, emotional and spiritual transformation. It was and is a gradual process of finding her internal inspiration, becoming INTIMATE with its character, fostering its growth, deepening its roots and unleashing its essence into the world.

 

 

In 2017 she found Transformational Breath® and things really started to change even more. It was a new lease on life.

 

She found it interesting that the Transformational Breath® Trainers were focusing on the INHALE which is both metaphoric  for our abundant nature plus a literal emphasis on oxygen INTAKE.

 

This focus is designed to accentuate our focus on opening ourselves to RECEIVING  and experiencing our worthiness. This was in stark contrast to earlier guidance from  emphysema protocols which  focus on the exhale. She reflected on this deeply and felt there were layers of insight and revelations wanting to be discovered.

 

One thing Corina noted was that  everything that happened was required to happen for her soul’s growth or else it would not have happened.

 

This is a Universal truth that applies to all of us!

 

This story will be conveyed to you experientially if you choose to do the mindfulness exercise outlined at the end.

 

 What kept her going?

 

What inspired her to persevere?

 

 

This is a gradual process for most of us but well worth the journey. If you suffer from some physical, emotional, mental or spiritual imbalance, keep the faith and BREATHE OUT LOUD.

 

My friend is 54 years young and now facilitates Transformational Breath® work all around the world. At the time of this interview, she was in the Dominican Republic swimming with the whales twice a day for seven days.

 

She has such a renewed lease on life. Fear is no longer a deterrent in her exploration of what is possible.

 

It’s not that she does not feel fear. It’s just that she has the visceral understanding that she is NOT the FEAR!

 

Many of us identify with our  emotions as if it is who we are. It’s not who we are. Not by a long shot!

 

Emotions and their accompanying sensations are simply “energies wanting to move through us” AND to the degree we allow this to occur, we step into the flow of life rather than creating obstructions.

 

 

We think that if we FEEL a particularly undesirable emotion for any period of time then we ARE that EMOTION which can challenge our self-image or false identity.  We say things like “I am depressed or I am angry” and that means XYZ.   A more accurate statement is, I feel a slowing down of my energy or I feel a crunchiness or a tork in my body.

 

 

The truth is that the emotional experience is moving, variable and worth being in a stance of simply noticing it. Recognizing this and observing ourselves “in vivo” causes the fortress to soften and melt effortlessly while the heart blooms like a fresh spring rose.

 

So………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..

 

 

My friend travels the world and goes with the flow. She Minds the Wind. She no longer worries about her health or finances and allows the cadence of her breath to remind her of the presence of her innate abundance. It lifts her to new dimensions and opens doors to limitless possibilities. She soars with the winds.

 

 

 

 

When I asked her what she could show me so that I could have a deep understanding of her experience and the contrast of what it was like and how it is for her now, she replied, “I invite you to do the following exercise.”

 

 

 

 

 

MINDFULNESS PRACTICE

 

You will need 2 things: 1 straw and to be outside in nature on a warm or temperate sunny day.

 

  1. Get a straw. Pinch off your nostrils so you cannot breath through them. Place the straw inside your mouth and close your lips.  Set a timer and breathe through the straw for 3 minutes. Experience the deprivation of oxygen and the amount of life force that is able to enter your body. After 1 minute, stand up and walk around with the straw in your mouth. Do not breathe through your  nose. Note how your body feels. Imagine living like that for years.

 

2.  Now, stand up outside in nature on a sunny day! Spread your arms out stretched, open your heart by taking a big inhalation feeling the expansion of your chest. Notice what you feel when you can enjoy as much oxygen as you desire. Smell the flowers, hear the birds. Feel the contrast of the former contraction and the present expansion.

 

Questions to ponder:

Compare and contrast.

a. How did your body feel in exercise 1 vs. 2?

-Constricting, limiting?

-Expanding, freeing?

 

Our breath is the vehicle by which we take in the abundance of oxygen and move stagnant energies within our body temple but we often disregard oxygen as one of our superpowers for the flow abundance so reflect on the following questions:

 

 

b. What is your definition of ABUNDANCE? ( Think way outside the box)

 

c.  In what ways do you limit the abundance that is your birthright AND accessible in, through and around you?

 

d. What new ways might you define abundance for yourself and the world?

 

e. What inspires you to keep on going in times of challenge?

 

f. Name some ways in which abundance nourishes your body, mind and spirit?

 

g.  What will be required to happen for you to honor that you are a vessel designed to receive abundance in every way, shape and form? Are you willing to embrace this newfound reality?

 

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March 2019 A Friend for Life

 

A Friend for Life

                                                                              ( Inspired by the spirit of Robert Franchi)

 

 

My best friend. She knows me so well. She is always there for me. She supports me like a huge body of water supporting a SHIP tossing around in the voraciousness of a stormy sea.

 

 

She recognizes the tumultuous theatrics and navigates me through with grace. This grace is none other than I have ever become acquainted. It is the grace of messy, chaotic, unknowing and that is her elegance. She sees beauty in all of it. She even uses her muscles to help me buckle down the hatches until I open for another round of softening.

 

 

She stands nearby in a silent, still, wise, manner. She watches my fury, my demands and stays by my side. She encourages me to come closer to what rides on the wave she has introduced me to. She sweeps me off my feet in times of SURRENDER.

 

 

She watches and comforts me lovingingly as I crumble to my knees in states of confusion, unknowing and pain. Her power humbles me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

She is a friend to enjoy for the moment and only that moment. Then the next moment inside itself and again and again.  She is a mystery and travels through every ventricle of my heart for she is the keeper of the most precious. She swirls around the precious gift kept so sweetly in silence until the sun casts its  LIGHT and says “it’s TIME”.

 

 

Without any warning, she lifts me up and my entire body feels like champagne bubbles popping. I feel the Power of love streaming though my inner sanctuary like I have never felt before. She is teaching me about life and death, the coming and goings of all things. She shows me the infinite spectrum of CHOICES that lie within me. She shows me that death is part of life and there is an enlivening experience within all of it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

She showers me with a new kind of seeing.   In her infinite wisdom, she invites me to come closer and be with the entire spectrum.

 

There is a central channel within that holds a love for all things.

 

It’s holy, its neutral, its presence.

 

                                                                                             She rides on the wave of my breath!

 

 

MINDFULNESS PRACTICE

 

Every time you walk through a door. Pause

“Receive” a breath vs “Taking” a breath

Experience the shift of what was and what now is!

Notice the nuances in your sensitivity rising to meet your essence within.

Greet the grace with a smile.

 

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Feb 2019 Coming Home to Your Heart: The Breath Reminds Us of our Connection to ALL THERE IS

COMING HOME TO YOUR HEART

The Breath Reminds us of our Connection to ALL THERE IS

 

 

Doesn’t surreality breed simplified Presence if we allow it? Have you ever had a deeply surreal experience that made the world around you appear seemingly flat, odd and lacking in dimension ??

 

Sometimes it’s subtle like having the awareness that life is not really about destinations aka achieving, obtaining, arriving etc. and voila you make a shift in perspective which changes all the things you choose to do and not do.

 

Often it comes in a way that is not so subtle. It arrives on our door steps exemplified by a huge shift in one’s life like a health challenge, relationship breakup, job loss, accident, or death of a loved one. It’s a stripping of your life as you once knew it. It’s a death. It’s a creation of space. It prompts a different iteration of yourself. One that is not so familiar; thus, typically, discomfort ensues.

 

At the same time, it is a deep cleansing, a profound space holder for the launch of our voyage. A voyage into the unknown of our own inner chasm. A place in which intimacy within ourselves is ignited.

 

 

 

An activation occurs and we REALIZE our own brilliance. We have an expanding repertoire of emotions that are now acceptable to us. We step gently into the glimmer of our own radiance and allow ourselves to taste our own starshine. It comes in bits and pieces to allow our entire energetic system: Mind, Body and Spirit to digest, metabolize, and assimilate with what is now TRUTH for us.

 

 

 

So, when people ask me “What has Transformational Breath® done for you?” I reply. “It is not what Transformational Breath® has DONE for me as if it is “one and done”. 

 

This particular breathing pattern is a tool by which I honor my partnership to the Divine. It’s a willingness to remain connected with the Source energy that infuses the life force into my beingness AND when I experience disconnection, ( and I do)  this constant companion  acts as a reminder. It  CONTINUES to unfold right here right now in this very moment.   It’s a practice! It’s a partnership.

 

So……

 

As I ponder of the clichés of a lifetime I  GET that clichés are clichés because they are right on point. It’s just a matter of experiencing our version with a felt perception that gives it personal meaning.

 

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and today is a gift. That’s why we call it the present.

It’s all in the journey!

Every day is a journey, and the journey itself is home, Matsuo Basho

Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is more important than the outcome. Arthur Ashe

Be here now Ram Dass

Be the change you wish to see in the world , Ghandi

What you see in others, you have it in yourself

There’s no such thing as a coincidence.

Everything happens for a reason.

You never get more than you can handle.

You are always right where you are supposed to be.

Let go, Let God

 

Just for today, Transformational Breath® is bringing me home to MY HEART. Not what it’s supposed to look like to be a “good person”, “successful entrepreneur”, “caring healer” etc and all the other labels but what is authentically mine.

 

It’s a process where the art of grace embodies the power of love in earth time.

 

As our individual/collective awareness shifts to one of nurturing and cultivating that momentary spark   (that exists in every single one of us) into a string of lights (interconnectedness), this place of Truth, Light, Oneness and Peace steps forward into our visceral experience and we offer the change from the inside out albeit sometimes slowly, deliberately, emphatically, but in the end BLISSFULLY!

We ARE the I AM Presence. We are home in our heart.

It’s coming from the inside out.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

MINDFULNESS PRACTICE

 

-Create a warm inviting environment for yourself.

 

Declare to the Universe an invocation. This will invite the powers that be into your heart space

 

 

 

 

 

Example: “ I beckon on the I AM Presence, Masters of Light, Goddesses of Grace, and Angelic Forces to join me in this sacred space whereby I open my heart to connect with the Supreme Heart of hearts. Support me in my exploration of my deepest LOVE, my most profound level of connection and all the bliss that we are in unity. I open myself up to your wisdom, messages and guidance. I thank you for this time, I thank you for this energy and I thank you for this space”

 

  1. Put on music that will last for 20 minutes
  2. Breathe deeply through your mouth into your lower abdomen. Allow the inhalation to be longer and the exhalation to simply fall out of you like a waterfall.
  3. Email or message me with your experience.

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Jan 2019 Just Like Birthing into Life, Our Breath Expands and Contracts

Jan 2019

Just Like Birthing into Life

Our Breath Expands and Contracts

 

We come into this world through a mechanism of our mother’s body. In a natural birth, there’s an expansion and a contraction which is metaphor for our journey throughout our physical LIFE experience.  

 

 

You cannot have one without the other.

 

Our breath has an inhalation which is analogous to our expansion.

 

Inhaling is the physical mechanism by which we expand our capacity for more and more boundless levels of abundance to be metabolized within our particular system or body temple.

 

Exhaling is the release mechanism or the time of contraction whereby we have an opportunity to go within and discern what is being reflected back to us through our personal experience. The exhalation is meant to be relaxed, soft, and easy. It is meant to be a time of going deep inside ourselves (albeit a subconscious nanosecond if we are even aware of this dynamic), releasing and of just being our own witness.

 

Our lives, the people in them, the circumstances we create are all a beautiful tapestry depicting our inner environment i.e. our thoughts, feelings, beliefs etc.   This is not meant to be used to beat yourself up if you do not like what is in your environment. It is meant to be an illumination so that you might claim dominion of your inner reality and make your shifts in perception on the inside. It all originates on the inside and identifying the CAUSAL point to EFFECT change in our external environment. It is paramount to creating indelible shifts in consciousness.

 

 

Have you ever been in a TIME of expansion

and experienced a slight deflation like the tiniest

pinprick in a balloon so small that the balloon just

loses air slowly and innocuously? You are not able to take your focus off this slight irritant and it changes your whole energy. Since you are unaware why this one irritant is still hanging around, it grows in its magnitude to illuminate its causal point? Soon your expansion has tempered itself and you are in a state of contraction that is profoundly noticeable to you.

 

Here’s an example:

 

Let’s say you are an event planner and you have several new clients. All is going well. All of the events are well received and selling out consistently. Your clients are thrilled and continue to use your services for additional events. You entertain the idea of expanding your business with enthusiasm. You can see it in your mind’s eye with the accompaniment of passion. Voila, before you can even get the idea out of your head, you meet a prospect at one of the events you have planned and they become a new client. This is someone whose philosophy aligns with your ways of being in the world. This is exciting, rejuvenating and inspiring plus there is a lot this client wants to co-create with you. You are on cloud 9!!!!!!

 

You collaborate and co-create several events. Things are going famously yet there is one nagging piece. There are several situations in which responsiveness is being challenged. In your eyes, there is a lack of responsiveness on the part of your new client. It makes things very difficult to move forward and create change.

 

WHAT TO DO?

 

So before we rush in to determine what “to do” or what “to say”, it is best to pause to discern what prompted this experience to present itself to you. We create everything for deeper levels of understanding, growth, love and self-acceptance. The following exercise will support the process to illuminate the causal point, empower yourself and shift your energy dynamics.

 

It is a significant piece to be open minded and simply consider that you are, to some degree, creating this situation. That might be hard to swallow. You might say, “What do I have to do with their non-responsiveness?”

 

Well, its physics: “Like attracts Like” even in the smallest of molecular structures. It’s the dynamics of how the Universe works. There is still  an little inkling of a charged emotion within you that wants to be soothed, acknowledged, seen, heard and tenderly touched. Nevertheless, on some deeper subconscious level, you are not allowing yourself to “feel” the associated sensations/emotions. It’s buried due to protective tendencies. So the Universe sends a messenger. Someone comes into your life to let you know what signal you are transmitting on a subconscious level. We are always transmitting and receiving messages on a vibrational level.

 

You co-created a disappointment (the act of non-responsiveness) to slow down your expansion until you can metabolize the level of abundance that is coming into your life. It is a way to recognize our habituations to old ways of being and take our power back. It’s a gift!!!! Here is a tool to allow your subconscious to share with you what is happening on a deeper, more authentic level. It’s a way to start a conversation with the more illusive parts of yourself.

 

MINFULNESS PRACTICE (The key word is PRACTICE)

  1. Settle yourself in a seated position or standing but ground your buttock or feet on the ground
  2. Place one hand on your heart and one on your belly
  3. Notice your breath, its quality, force, depth, exhale relaxed or pushing etc
  4. Begin to receive deeper relaxed inhalations (giving the inhalation a color, texture and quality) and tap on your heart center making the following statement:
  5. Even though I am (name the feeling and the situation), I completely love, forgive, accept and adore myself.

EX:          Even though I am (anxious about this non responsiveness), I completely love, forgive, accept and adore myself.

  1. This (name the situation) is illuminating an old wound that wants to be understood, acknowledged, accepted and integrated. Then your system will allow it to shift, dissipate and it will feel cleared. You will know it is being cleared when the situation does not trigger you to the same intensity.

EX:          This (non- responsiveness) is illuminating an old wound that wants to be understood, acknowledged and accepted. I am seeing the secondary gains of taking my power back, not taking things personally, moving on to new ventures etc…….

 

Feel free to allow the flow of speech pour out of you aloud and let whatever discoveries that want to be known surface into the light of day.

 

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Dec 2018 I AM the Breath! I AM the “I AM” in Light!

    Dec 2018

 

I AM the Breath

The Breath Connects Us All!

I AM the Light!

I AM the ” I AM” in, through, around & of the LIGHT!!!

 

Several years ago, one of my dearest friends sent me this song called I AM LIGHT by India Arie.

She saw my essence, mirrored it and I had a kernel of  its revelation this month.

 

When we feel safe enough and share  from our HEARTS, the effects we can have on this world are exponential. We may never witness it first hand, but make no mistake, you are creating a shift in perspective that is eternal for yourself and everyone else known and unknown.

 

 

 

Recently, I was feeling lonely for no apparent reason. Everything was fine in my external experience but my mind wanted to latch on to the emotion and make it “SOMETHING”  to perseverate on. My mind wants to make up a story,  feed it with reasons, predicaments, facts and create distractions.  I noticed my mind’s tendency to find a “reason” so that it could be fixed.

 

 

 

 

What if I just let it be?

 

What if I just felt the loneliness or any feeling just  as it is?

 

What if I don’t need fixing?

 

What if none of us, our feelings nor our life situations need FIXING?

 

What if it is just some energy form that wants to move in, through and around me ?

 

What if the mere notion of wanting to fix an aspect of myself created the sensation/emotion of loneliness in a way so that I would sit up and take notice?

 

What if there is NOTHING WRONG?

 

What if there is just a piece of me that wants to be held by ME, for ME to trust ME?

 

What if we make something WRONG to have something to talk about which distracts us from the very truth of who we are?

 

What if CONNECTION is our desire and if we allow ourselves the time of day we can find it inside?

 

When I was a child, my parent’s called me the “What if” kid. I’m glad because all of this contemplation and willingness to explore my own heart brings me  deeper into the recognition and acknowledgment that I am a spark of LIGHT.  STAR LIGHT to be exact!

 

 

 

 

I stood at the top of my yoga mat gazing a few feet in front of me when an echo reverberated throughout my entire consciousness,  It was a soft experiential transmission. I could feel the cells of my body being soothed.

 

“I AM THE LIGHT,”  the voice whispered.

 

 

 

 

 

The next time you have a moment in solitude, share with yourself,

 

I AM the Breath

The Breath Connects Us All

I AM the LIGHT.

I AM the “I AM” in, through, around & of the LIGHT!

 

The holiday season can come with a lot of expectations and even pressure to “do” certain things, to “feel” a particular way and to “be” other than we are perceiving ourselves to be in any given moment. Distraction runs rampant and that is ok. Nothing wrong with it.

 

Since you may have time off from work and typical responsibilities, maybe there is room for something else. An exploration of our hearts. Isn’t that what this time of year represents?

 

Dropping into our hearts and seeing what is truly there in any moment, sitting with it before moving into action gives us the permission to be with ourselves authentically and reconnect with ourselves.

 

 

MINDFULNESS PRACTICE

 

Play I AM LIGHT by India Arie

 

Speak to self:

 

I AM the Breath (and receive a deep full breath)

 

The Breath Connects Us All

 

I AM the LIGHT ( Look at the lights and know that they are an outward reflection of your essence)

 

I AM the “I AM” in, through, around & of the LIGHT!

 

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Nov 2018 Rest in Your Breath and Don’t Muck it UP!

Nov 2018

REST IN YOUR BREATH and Don’t Muck it Up!

What a joke! To think I am in charge of anything! I have spent most of my adult life attempting to prove to the Universe that I know what’s going on. How hilarious is that? My ego is cunning, slippery and has ways to entice be back into the arms of the known.

Oh, the KNOWN I love it so, you’ll never know…..

 

(Listen to this link Barbara Streisand’s ” My Man”   Replace it with whatever your hungry attachment is and feel into the emotional undertones in your system!

 

Our attachments are really overrated but how do we know that until we experience the freedom towards which they are pointing us ?

 

      Whatever attachment you cling to, please know that the exact opposite also is available to you when you are willing! It’s just a matter of process my love!

 

For me, it wasn’t until The Breath had its way with me… yes until the breath captured my attention and not from the level of the mind. It can’t come from MY MIND because MY MIND holds such a skeptical and cynical attitude even seconds after having a direct life altering experience. That’s how convincing my protector i.e. the egoic human condition can be!!  This was different!

It was a FULL EMBODIED FELT PERCEPTION!

Hallelujah!

I had this AMAZING experience while deeply entranced in a Transformational Breath® session. My partner Kirk was facilitating me. I reached some kind of plateau where I was resting in an altered state of consciousness. It was like I was having a telepathic conversation with the Divine but I wasn’t exactly asking any questions. It was like the Divinity of the Universe knew what my questions were before I was conscious of them.

 

All of a sudden, I burst out into a bout of uncontrollable laughter. I got it! I get it! But not from the perspective of the ego or mind. I was laughing because I had a full visceral embodied experience that the Universe would not tell me one thing more about my life’s path before I needed to know it.  I was not whining, kicking, or screaming like a two year old asking the proverbial WHY or HOW COME? I was resting in natural great peace while nodding my head inside of myself, concurring and laughing in unison because I knew as well as the Universe knew that I would just MUCK IT ALL UP.

 

The Universe was saving me from myself!

 

Why? Why would I muck it up especially when it’s all good, exciting, passionate stuff coming down the pike?

 

Because I am in a phase whereby the Law of Paradoxical Intent has been rearing its ugly head! It hasn’t always been this way but it has been alive and vibrant lately. Remember in my August 2018 Newsletter Breathing in Bali, I shared how when I might want something (not material but internally) I will keep the very object of my desire equidistant from my grasp. The Law of Paradoxical Intent is the “TRYING” Syndrome.  It’s quite ingenious because it keeps you trapped inside of yourself so that you do not have to realize your potential. Keeps ya safe and in the status quo!

 

 

The good news is that LOVE exists in the “TRYING” too. It’s waiting patiently for you to discover your SELF!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Universe mirrors back to you that which you are experiencing internally albeit unconsciously. The Universe expresses it in a manner that you can understand and fosters your potential to make new choices which leads to harmony and  balance. It’s physics! It’s just how it is.

Our lives are simply an out picturing of our inner reality.

 

So when I’m in a state of “TRYING”, that’s what I get the experience of “TRYING”. How frustrating is that?

The challenge is to hold your focus in the direction of your desire and let go at the same time. It’s about feeling the joy in the process!

So while I was in this telepathic dialogue, swooned and swaddled by grace, my laughter turned to uncontrollable sobbing. First laughter, then tears from laughing so hard, then sobbing at the intensity of the truth moving through my entire body.

 

 

 

I was left in a place of such Lightness, Oneness and Truth. Of course, it only takes me a matter of seconds to want to “TRY” to have another experience like this one. Actually, I RESTED IN THIS BREATH for a whole week it was so life altering.

 

 

But really, can you relate? Something MAGNIFICENT happens in our lives and we WANT MORE and more and more.

It’s like chasing the fireflies sparking up the evening sky…..we chase and chase and it so exciting. They light us up but if we put them in a jar it dulls their flame because they are in bondage. Their energy is sequestered by the jar.

We learn to let things be as they may and appreciate the natural nuances, the ebb and flow, the ego and the soul. They are all part of the WHOLE!

I felt a wave of overwhelming sense of gratitude for this Omnipresent force knowing me so much better than I know myself. I thoroughly enjoyed the comic relief and welcome it always!

Mindfulness Practice:

-Pick a quality or idiosyncrasy about yourself which you find humorous or can extract the levity.

-Imitate yourself (absorbed in this quality) in front of a person with whom you share a trusted loving relationship.

-Your souls will shine through and you will experience a profound shift in energy.

 

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